with relatives as a baby. I don’t want her to grow up and hate me for who I have been to get recently. I try to be a good kid but I feel like a brat sometimes but it's left a bruise this time and I'm starting to get scared. I lived in a terrible chaotic home as a kid. any suggesions are welcomed. That kind of abuse is proven to be far worse than that of physical. Your parents will understand in time. parent, not everyone here has a daddy who bails them out of every mess , we are dealing w reality though i agree w what u stated. She plays "mind games", deliberately causing trouble, or expecting that I behave in a certain way, to get affection. Too much pampering or involvement is the opposite of neglect and it can spoil a child by making them too demanding and dependent. When parents neglect to set rules and boundaries for their children, it is only natural for the kids to become brats or display unacceptable behaviors. If you got 7 correct answers: Your answers earn you an "A-" or a "B" in lousy parenting! I just got out of a horrible relationship. As if I'm not wanted my mum just agrees with my dad saying that their being parents but when he favors my brother more doesent Care when my brothers are fighting or when my siblings are bulling me or when my sister does. He's always angry, he says mean things and swears all the time. All of this makes me wonder is it the worry about his future, I set such a high bar for him and for his abilities(nothing he does is good enough), or is it me who is not having a strong faith in him or God, or simply the financial and economical situation the world is in now? I'm also homeschooled so I can't get away from her. It's not really their job to give me guidance. I am not my children's friend, I am their mother. If you can reason with the child as to what he/she did wrong and why it is wrong, they would understand. Take time to appreciate each of your children for who they are as individuals, and spend one-on-one time with each child to improve your bond with all of them. But they don't even give a fuck about it. That's just what I need, to be constantly reminded that I look like I'm a bitch. For instance, today, my brother was showing me a music video, and my mom walked in and screamed at me for "influencing him so badly" despite him having been watching for hours while I was doing my work. What do you think? excuse me but not every child that was victimized by bad parents did drugs, smoked etc... and yes our actions do affect our future but who's job is it to guide us to that right path when our own parents neglect us, beat us, and discourage us. Everyday we couldn't go out and play we had hours of chores to do around the house. My father did not drink or smoke or do drugs, so there are no excuses. I won't go into detail about my past. Even when I'd try to write these things down I a personal journal, she would read it and angrily confront me about me and throw my journal away. When I finally do leave and get out of her house, I want to go to school for music and/or culinary arts. You can call, be anonymous, and just speak to someone for advice on what to do. Would I be a terrible person to send this link to my parents? Parents are a child's first teachers in life. When my mom was pregnant with that same brother 7 years ago she was always angry. I yelled at her to stop and she came towards me and threw me down on my bed and started repeatedly smacking my face, telling me to shut up because I was screaming since I was scared and it hurt. I believe you’ll always seek your mother’s attention but don’t make it your life’s goal or obsession. I like this article very much. Parenting is the toughest job on earth. I’m just a horrible mother. i need to do a certain test that might change my life, and my father tells me the i WILL fail and i shouldn't even try. My real father was abusive mentally and physically.